I guess by now y'all see I'm really into the deep thought type of blogging...lol...well its 4:19 am on january 8th and sudden thought hit me....so what do I do?....blog
Interracial dating....scary right?...I know...lol
Well let's jump it off by saying its ok if that's your thing...but here's a question...if you date outside your race are you a sellout or whatever the term is...and if you only date within your race are you racist?!?!....who the fuck knows?
Well in my opinion I prefer to date within my race.mainly because I love and cherish black women...the curves,the full lips,the slang,the attiude,the swag,the sex,the cooking....I mean c'mon how could I leave that...its all I know...since childhood.I grew up appreciating black women...so I personally feel a since of obligation to my family and our history to marry a black woman.am I racist?...I ask because I find almost anything attractive in a woman but I won't speak unless they're in my ethnic group...partly because of fear...yes I do care about what people say when they see me with a white woman or who so ever I may be with...character flaw? I agree....but to a degree everyone cares about our society's opinion of them at some point...mine just so happen to be with the women I date.I'm out all the time I meet new people,I see tons of beautiful women,all shapes,sizes and colors but I don't feel like any can match up to a african american woman.so am I looking down on other races?...maybe? Cuz I don't think a woman is stong enough to tame this man right here unless were from similar upbringings,families and backgrounds.but I'm only human...with that said I could find myself laying down with women of any race or culture if the attraction is there but I can't commit to anyone outsice of my comfort zone.I had this conversation wit my man plenty of times...and he has a boss who is of mexican an korean I believe...beautiful woman,hardworking goal oriented,respects her man,and probably everything a woman should be...but me....I couldn't settle with her...to worried about our differences rather than our similarities,honestly I prefer brittany...terrible right...I know..based off the physical I would sleep with her six days a week and we do church on sundays but I can't wife her....not that she wants me anyway....lmao but I hope y'all understand me...as for my man....oh boy he thinks everything I think but only towards white women....I know he is a fuckin douche bag....tell me about it...lmfao...but at times I feel he's a sellout...like our women aren't good enough...he was bored in a family of us,raised by one,gave birth to one but can't date one?....I don't get that...I personally think he's excersizing his right to date white women...being that slavery wasn't that long ago he may just be happy...like the 1st time negros got to vote,or got into great schools,or got into politcal offices...he's just taking advantage of a opportunity to do sumthin different....ya mean...it has to be that...right?...I mean whatelse could it be...lions don't raise lions to have the cubs go off and mate with lab rats right?....not logical...but now I sound a little racist...but I think by everyone being classified by race that we all are racist because we a forced in eveyday society to acknowledge it....from the restaurants we eat at(chinese,soul food,italian eatery,taco bells,) to the shows we watch that only consist of uniracial familys(house of payne,the hills,meet the browns,everybody loves raymond,friends,shit even family guy!...lol)even our music grenres(hip hop predominitely black,country predominitely white)our channels(bet,telmundo,nbc cbs that won't show damn near any black people that's not on the news)....its everywhere...its forced on us and it has a brainwashing affect...so I'm not sure if I'm a racist or a realist or if my friend is a sellout or a ???...I don't know...you all tell me
Throw sumthin at me and I catch you later!
King
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well seriously touch u my homie and all and i see exactly what u sayin... but seriously i dont see u as racist i see u as someone who appreciates ya culture and ya nationality... i have grown 2 realize kinda the same thing like i feel like i cant b wit someone who hasnt been through the same shit i have... and i cant date someone who doesnt understand y i am the way i am or y i think the way i do... i mean me as a young black woman have a strong attraction 2 black men but i dont see myself as racist... but as for ya friend i dont think hes a sellout but i do think hes kinda weak and i say that because y does he prefer white women??? is it because of attitude differences??? which is usually y black guys prefer white girls... cuz they r easy to walk all over and someone who not gon speak they mind... my opinion... lata
ReplyDeleteFirst things first. I'm a Black woman. I prefer to date Black men bc I KNOW they can relate to me best. However, I am also open to change. Before any statement is to exist, a precise definition must first be made. Racism, (not to be confused with ethnocentrism), is the belief that a particular race is superior. If one race is superior, then of course at least one other race must be inferior. In reading what you posted, you are not a racist. You simply have a PREFERENCE for Black women. The issue of u bein a racist is not even valid. What you should perhaps consider are your TRUE reasons (not the justifications that you listed) for why u CHOOSE to not commit to anyone outside of your "comfort zone". There is no growth without conflict. The conflict listed is your discomfort with commiting to someone outside your "comfort zone". The growth will erupt once u let go of your ignorant (lack of knowledge) thoughts and feelings that are currently stunting your growth. Now in regards to your friend... He is not a sellout. The word "sellout" is synonomous to betrayal. To betray is to violate trust, contract, etc. I do not believe your friend is a sellout. Nor do I know enough about him to ignorantly label him "weak". He simply prefers white women. Women are women. Period. Generalizations stem from not only ignorance but a lack of experience. Generalizations are logical fallicies that manifests as defense mechanisms. Rise above it. And be happy :) P.s I'm Halle :)
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